As school reopens, students wrote in Horace Mann’s weekly paper of the report on decades-long abuse commissioned by alumni. An administrator was quoted as saying it contained “nothing substantially new,” despite the school’s refusal to investigate or discuss any of the lessons learned from its own understanding or files. In the following issue, the paper printed this letter to the editor from alumni in response:
“Dismissing the alumni report as containing nothing new overlooks important contributions and a vital opportunity. First, there is now an actual report in one place with recommendations based on investigation. Second, it includes practices endorsed by administrators to make school safer today. Third, it includes a list of reports made to the school in order to diagnose how to improve early warnings, prescribe practical methods to heal similar events and limit damage. Fourth, school heads and boards are using it to improve their education and prevention systems.
More central, as the alumni of HM have taken a leading role in a national effort to address abuse in schools, an opportunity is open for the administration to join with alumni in helping all schools benefit from the lessons learned. Surely all members of the community share the goal of making school safe, whatever our differences may be.
We should join together to eliminate the gaping loopholes in mandated reporting identified by the Bronx DA. We should help current and future survivors by supporting the Child Victims Act as endorsed by experts. We can recognize the systemic conditions that enabled abuse at HM and make sure they are removed in our school and all schools. As a next step, we should meet and speak openly together to show our community that nothing that has happened in the past should be feared and that however awkward and however painful discussing sexual abuse can be, discussing it can only help us and certainly cannot hurt us.
The report can be found online at MakingSchoolSafe.com
It remains to be seen what proportion of teachers have read the report or are even aware of it. Beyond the value of the narrative history of accounts it contains, the report puts in one place best practices and recommendations for prevention which all teachers should know. It also includes key questions parents can ask to understand the policies and systems in place at their own child’s school and to engage administrators in ongoing conversation. That discussion is far easier now than after any tragic event.
As Horace Mann prepares for its annual Homecoming day and assorted class reunions, how do the survivors of abuse feel about coming “home”? What efforts have been made to welcome them?
Justice shouldn’t depend on who owns the crime scene.
Our schools can’t speak openly about abuse or rape. Victims see the silence of authority and fear making a report. How do we change the moving parts of prevention to limit abuse and confront it when it occurs?
On the surface it sounds simple: see something, say something. But in practice most bystanders don’t say something, administrators don’t tell authorities and less than one in five victims ever reports sexual abuse or assault. Those who do speak must endure an unimaginable gauntlet of further pain and often re-injury without any resolution.
While the recent focus on colleges being accountable for how they address rape has brought public attention, practices have gotten worse. Reporting is badly broken. Need proof? Over a period of four years, half of colleges nationwide logged zero assaults. That’s not possible. Zero “reports” is what they received, meaning many, many victims were silent. Zero reports are no sign of prevention — they are a clear sign no one trusts the systems or the administrations.
( http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/college-sexual-assault-ranking_55ca42c5e4b0f1cbf1e67a6a )
College administrations are squeezed between Title IX requirements, compassion for victims, the rights of those accused and a new climate. How should a victim report, and to whom? Who investigates, what records are kept, or what sanctions are applied? The systems are idiosyncratic, burdensome and discourage reports. One example: In a drug-facilitated rape of a freshman woman on her third day of orientation by a stranger, a college has demanded to see a rape survivor’s entire sexual history. “To ask the victim in discovery to name every sexual partner and romantic interest she has ever had is irrelevant and outrageous and totally inappropriate. It is intended to harass and intimidate the victim.”
( http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/virginia-wesleyan-rape-victim_55c7a759e4b0923c12bd3241 )
The press seems more interested in looking at the issue in colleges while many of the same flaws exist in secondary schools, where the harm is earlier and the victims are less visible. Changing the system once and for all should include both levels and both public and private schools. Only a comprehensive solution will bring real prevention.
Does the task match the expertise?
“A cottage industry is being created” on campuses dedicated to handling tasks that fall outside the expertise of colleges and universities,” Janet Napolitano, president of the University of California and a former prosecutor and secretary of Homeland Security, warned in an article in the Yale Law & Policy Review published online this month. ( http://www.latimes.com/nation/la-na-campus-sexual-assault-20150817-story.html )
The peculiar often in-camera procedures don’t support victims well, or provide fairness, or build trust among the community because of their murkiness. Without trust, no one will speak up.
“It should not require national media coverage for campus sexual assault to be taken seriously, but we are finding ourselves well past that tragic point. It should be obvious by now that this common rape culture—addressing symptoms rather than causes, dismissing victims, and stifling conversations—is present and prevalent in the schools that don’t make headlines as well as the ones that do.” ( http://jezebel.com/when-i-tried-to-talk-to-my-prep-school-about-rape-cultu-1725635150 )
Why are the very people experienced at investigating often not informed (like the DA and police), while the head of school decides what to do, entangled in direct conflicts of interest over concerns for reputation, friends and donors? Even the state social services designed to provide help in cases of guardian abuse cannot deal with abuse by teachers or abusers who are not parents (in NY State).
The functions a good reporting system must perform lead us to identify who should best provide them:
1) Caring for victims with compassion, building trust, safety and justice.
2) Documenting, fact finding, investigating, managing confidentiality, keeping records.
3) Dealing with the accused, providing fairness, weighing sanctions and actions.
4) Communicating with the community with openness and transparency, balancing privacy issues.
Right now, victims of sexual assault turn to the nearby hierarchy: the heads of their colleges and high schools. Their hope for justice and fair treatment is soured in a patchwork of systems — if procedures exist at all. School heads aren’t objective third parties. Even if well-intended, many principals lack experience in investigation and stumble on isolating witnesses, questioning or prior knowledge of the accused. Often they prefer not to keep records to limit liability.
( http://www.click2houston.com/news/prestigious-school-admits-covering-up-teachers-sexual-abuse-of-students/34454562 )
Functions # 2 and 3 above are what the DA is trained to do. And yet school heads don’t call them. As much as it makes sense to seek other victims and ask the community for information, the prospect of bad press and/or liability undermines school heads doing just that instead relying on much smaller discrete inquiries. The lack of search, counseling and openness by the institution severely limits function #1. The usual result is a carefully crafted and contained letter that raises more questions than it answers, defeating function #4.
The system with the best chance to work combines the experience and sensitivities of outside agencies — rather than principals and floor monitors: joint and cooperative action between the DA (to investigate), state social services (providing victim care), and the institution (speaking openly). Once a report is made, it should be immediately clear if it’s the first, fifth or tenth account of an abuser. When organizations are accountable for records to authorities, it ends the incentive to hide or cover up sexual abuse which has created more victims. More reporting wouldn’t mean more assaults, it means less shame and secrecy.
Institutions which avoid federal funds shouldn’t be exempt from accountability for covering crimes.
“Since child abuse thrives in secrecy, there is a compelling interest in producing these files as it increases transparency on the potential mishandling of sex abuse claims. A society interested in protecting children from criminal assaults would not reasonably leave to the discretion of a children’s social club the disclosure of information regarding criminal assaults on children.” — Judge in Florida. Institutions obliged to protect children, especially a school, must be accountable and end the silence and secrecy.
( http://www.browardpalmbeach.com/news/boy-scouts-request-to-keep-sexual-abuse-files-confidential-denied-by-florida-judge-7195643 )
Effective reporting is even worse in secondary schools, especially private schools:
— Victims are minors and abusers are adult teachers and administrators.
— Consent is not the issue, early reporting is.
— Schools heads have an inherent conflict of interest, less experience and more reason to cover up.
— Mandated reporting laws and state services have well-known loopholes that remain unfixed.
— Social services are geared to handle guardian abuse – by parents, not others.
— Bystanders and victims are reluctant to speak with police, or the DA.
— Bystanders and teachers are confused on liability despite protections.
— Private secondary schools are worse than public schools.
Abuse in public schools is dealt with much more promptly and effectively than in private schools. One reason is the presence of an office apart from the educators dedicated to investigating accounts of sexual abuse. Why isn’t that same equal protection provided to all?
A model used in NY City Public schools
Abuse by teachers and staff is confronted sooner in the public schools in New York City, thanks mainly to the unit run by Richard Condon. The Special Commissioner of Investigation for the New York City School District is a unit of DOI that operates independently of the Department of Education. The office investigates alleged acts of corruption and other criminal activity, conflicts of interest, unethical conduct and misconduct by anyone within the New York City School District or doing business with the Department of Education. The office also serves as the Inspector General for the Teachers’ Retirement System of the City of New York and the New York City Board of Education Retirement System.
Why shouldn’t the same independent investigative capability protect private schools as well, in conjunction with local DAs?
( You can watch and hear Richard Condon in this video from the Abuse Symposium at NYU. Scroll to his beginning at about 1:09 to 1:25 – https://vimeo.com/110393616 )
Fairness and justice for victims of sexual assault and abuse shouldn’t depend on the location of the building in which it happens. Effective prevention shouldn’t be limited to one small corner for students. Support legislative reform with the Child Victims Act in Albany. Urge your representative to plug the massive loopholes in mandated reporting laws as well.
Until reforms are made, victims are much better served by reporting *first* to authorities – the local DA or police. They are better equipped to record and support survivors and the account won’t be buried. Let the current process at the school in question follow as it proceeds. Those who come forward are protected.
I call on Senators Kristen Gillibrand (NY), Clare McCaskill (MO), Pat Toomey (PA) and others working on the college side of abuse legislation in Washington. Join with Judge Leslie Crocker Snyder, Marci Hamilton and victims advocates to connect our best capacities and assemble a universal reporting system. Bring coordinated support to address institutional accountability once and for all. Install one system where abuse now occurs — at college or high school, public or private.
Encourage victims to report by making it easier, more responsive and never buried. Use the principles, not the principals.
For September: Take the time to reach out to help one survivor, one school, one community. Without authentic dialogue and a fresh perspective, nothing will change.
A teacher reported back to me: “…we had an incident <in a nearby school> this summer. I emailed your report to a friend on the BOE and the high school principal. I’m happy to say they took it very seriously and the board member sent it to other board members. So your work is ending up in places you don’t even know about it.It is much more widely disseminated than you even know.”
Board chairs and school heads are using our report with their staff this summer and fall after speaking with alums from HM and other schools. We have heard from alumni about discussions with the New England Association of Independent Schools (NEAIS), the National Association of Independent Schools (NAIS), and about seminars teachers have conducted based on the report.
— Send the link to your own child’s head of school. Ask about how its procedure incorporates the best practices. Ask now, before any event makes conversation far more difficult.
— Urge current teachers to read the alumni-sponsored Report. Start and continue a conversation this September.
If you feel a sense of comfort that today abusers of children seem to be reported sooner, that school authorities appear more aware, that teachers report signs earlier or that the community is more willing to speak up, listen: that comfort is false. And it blinds us to a dangerous loophole.
Yes, we read news of abusers arrested in recent incidents. Yes, we read articles of adult survivors finding the courage now to speak up about their abuse as a child. What we don’t hear about is the huge gap in between: known abusers teach and coach and counsel children right now, but can’t be charged or investigated. Previous victims know who they are. In some cases even the DA or the press knows who they are. But the public doesn’t, even if they are teaching children. The same is true in religious organizations, camps, youth-oriented sports and even Hollywood. They know of perps in plain sight.
These are not abusers yet to be discovered — many have a long swath of victims. The shameful loophole is carved out each time the crimes are unaddressed and just old enough to disable police, the DA and criminal charges. Worse, the delay rewards the institution – the administrators at a school, church or agency – with no accountability despite volumes of irrefutable prior alerts. Their silence when, perversely, prompt action could have had the most benefit, buys their own immunity at the expense of future victims.
In New York State, for example, once a child sexual abuse crime is three years past, victims cannot confront the institution, even where it ignored or buried numerous reports. After five years, the abuser cannot be charged and investigations are stalled. The consequences are stunning. The abuser can then continue with little risk, the organization isn’t required to answer for its enabling of abuse, and the victim is left to shoulder further burden when the press is the only path remaining. Consider the plight of the Cosby victims who came forward. Or recall the many survivors among schoolmates at Horace Mann. Now consider any teacher, coach or religious official less famous who remains in place, unknown to his or her community – but painfully known to survivors.
The Royal commission in Australia revealed that the Jehovah’s Witnesses destroyed documents, hid named abusers, intimidated victims reporting and even promoted predators.
Rotherham, in the UK; The new inquiry into institutional failures in the UK; or similar revelations in Scotland, Ireland, or France.
The Boy Scouts; The Orthodox community; The Milwaukee Diocese; Schools in Illinois, Conn., NJ, NY, and Mass. and more.
We need to fix the role institutions play in sexual abuse. Prevention fails in three ways:
Institutions protect abusers
Statutes of limitations block justice and promote cover up
Even known abusers can avoid charges
Schools and organizations intimidate victims who report abuse and cover up accounts. Many do not alert authorities of repeated reports. The result is they multiply abuse and add victims. The justice system must support victims – not allow abusers and those who enable them to be unaccountable.
Eliminating the statute of limitations is vital. But if that is all we do, it will help when survivors speak up in years ahead – it won’t help identify perps in plain sight now. There is still a massive backlog of cases where abuse is known, the crimes are beyond the statute, but the abuser is still working with kids.
The Child Victims Act includes a year-long window designed to resolve this very loophole during which older claims can be adjudicated in civil court. Several states have enacted the window. In California, one clear effect is hundreds of abusers working with children were revealed and addressed. Perps in plain sight now were fairly dealt with – cleared or removed. The purpose is safety, not compensation, for most survivors.
In NY, the Catholic Church spends huge sums to block the removal of the loophole, despite the clear risk to the community (especially odious with the church’s own sordid history of hidden abusers). The pretext they point to is bankruptcy though the track record says that hasn’t happened. And the idea that courts get clogged is also disproved. Worse, they spread fear of bogus claims when research shows that is exceedingly rare. Consider that the burden of proof is first on the plaintiff and add that no culpability attaches unless the institution received and ignored clear reports. Further, the shame, pain and struggle to endure legal action for sexual abuse falls so hard on survivors that sadly, many don’t have the stamina or strength.
The retroactive window solves the backlog, deals with known abusers, offers some healing to survivors, has precedent, works in other states, and finally adds needed relief beyond the removal of SOLs. Let’s unburden all our communities from an ugly shadow in sexual abuse past and present. Enable our schools and each of us to speak openly, so that the message is clear to any child watching what we do: we believe him or her, we want to help, and we want to know and to heal.
Why do we permit institutions to protect predators and create massive abuse?
The nationwide inquiry in Australia has concluded that when institutions let child sexual abuse happen, that should be a crime.
“We need to move from an understanding of institutions as merely places where child sexual abuse may occur to places where the institution itself is conducive to crime. And if institutions or organisations are directly or indirectly responsible for criminal behaviour such as child sexual assault, the law should hold them to account.”
Martin Guggenheim — law professor and nationally recognized expert in the field ofchildren and law — pointed directly at the very issue many governments and legislatures are now realizing when he said at the NYU panel on child abuse: “Why isn’t a school’s commitment to the well being of its children something we demand? Why isn’t it a tort for a Board of a school to lie to an alumnus about past behavior? Who is worse? I think the denier.” Oct 21st, 2014: http://ustre.am/_3FQVt:2npw
Now, the nationwide inquiry in Australia has concluded that when institutions let child sexual abuse happen, that should be a crime. In addition, the national inquiry in the UK is likely to underscore the same issue: Institutional accountability. Coming to a legislature near you.
Victoria has now abolished limitation periods within which to sue for injury arising out of child abuse.
Premier Denis Napthine: “We as a government are committed to ensuring organisations cannot hide behind statutory time limits in order to avoid the liability they have for harm they have caused to victims of child abuse,” Dr. Napthine told reporters on Thursday.
The government has already created offences for people who fail to report suspected child sexual abuse, as well as for people holding a position of responsibility who fail to protect a child when they know someone in their organisation poses a risk.”
Removing the incentive organizations used to stall or cover up reports is a giant step:
“We must put difficult questions to politicians, bishops and other faith leaders, headteachers, police officers, regulators, inspectors and public officials of all kinds. And we will carry on putting those questions until we get answers.
“Too many individuals and institutions” have been “sheltered from accountability through patterns of indifference or obstruction”, she added: “It is a stark reality that some abusers have abused their positions of trust within institutions as a means of gaining unfettered access to children.”
The inquiry provides an opportunity to “expose past failures of institutions to protect children” and to “confront those responsible”, she added.
Heads of school are obligated to report abuse to authorities (and parents)
Connecticut law requires school staff and officials to report allegations of abuse, neglect and endangerment to either law enforcement or the state Department of Children and Families within 12 hours of learning of the allegations. State law also requires that parents be notified of such allegations and investigations.
Ending the venue loophole for student abuse on trips
“It is troubling to think that a teacher responsible for the care of young adults can sexually assault them on a school trip abroad and not be subject to prosecution in our state,” the court said. “That outcome, though, is driven by existing statutory law, which requires that conduct that is an element of the offense occur here.”
“I’ve been routinely brushed off by the powers that be at Bergen Catholic. I’ve been ridiculed, my claims have been declared not viable, and all together I think these people are trying to sweep something under the rug.”
“What’s wrong with us? An institution that continues to deny and gets away with it. Why isn’t a school’s commitment to the well being of its children something we demand? Why isn’t it a tort for a Board of a school to lie to an alumnus about past behavior? Who is worse? I think the denier.”
Watch Martin Guggenheim on video — law professor and nationally recognized expert in the field of children and law — from the NYU panel on child abuse, chaired by Judge Snyder, Oct 21st, 2014: http://ustre.am/_3FQVt:2npw
Rob Hollander, HM alumnus, wrote:
I spoke to a Horace Mann board member after the panel last night, but I failed to convey to him my concerns that first drew me to meet with alumni. Those concerns have not been resolved. They’re about the role of institutions, not about abusers.
I believe abusers will always be among us. The burden of protection, prevention and punishment lies on institutions. Most of us, maybe all of us, have hurt someone and even seduced someone in some way, sensing those who are available and vulnerable to us. We’ve all abused someone in some inconsequential way and who knows how far those consequences reach. I don’t mean to diminish what the abusers at HM did, just to say that abuse is human and will be with us; it’s for institutions to curb it. Teachers should respect their professional ethics; some won’t; HM should have enforced it — that’s what an administration is for. So I blame the institution for what happened more than the abusers who took advantage of an administration that allowed them their breaches.
More important than blame, however, is achieving a sense of justice for the wronged. Here I don’t think the abuser can do much. “Sorry, I was wrong” doesn’t make up for years of suffering and pain. Apologies may redeem the abuser, but not the wronged, and to see the abuser redeemed adds confusing feelings that may not be helpful at all.
Institutions can go much further. Institutions have the weight of authority and public legitimacy. When that weight is shifted onto the scale of the wronged and against the wrong-doer, especially if the wrong-doer comes from the ranks of the institution itself, the wronged is given a support of authority that no one else can give. That support is the sense of justice. Only authority can give that sense. It’s the father standing with the wronged child with his arm around his shoulder to say, “You were right; I know you were right; what they did was wrong, and I was wrong to allow it.” It’s full validation and respect.
So long as the school protects the trustees who knew about the abuse, the school sides with the abusers. That is to give the weight of the institution to injustice, which wrongs the wronged once again. Surely this is why survivors remain discontent with the current board of trustees.
Shifting to full validation has not yet happened at HM. Abuse deserves condemnation, but to me all the condemnation of abusers is incidental to what really matters — the institutional role, institutional betrayal, institutional justice. What matters is that the school publicly take full responsibility for its past and say publicly, “We failed. We abused you. We were wrong” That’s what an independent investigation is really all about. It’s a confession, a full confession to validate the survivors.
As an alumnus I also feel I have a role in giving a sense of justice by saying this whenever I can to validate the survivors and side with them for justice’ sake. I wish I had done more.
After many recent revelations about child sexual abuse regarding famous people, and clusters of repeated accounts within institutions and religious denominations, the call for justice is unified in outrage but the steps toward prevention have “struck against a great thing.” Two, actually.
Oceans – Juan Ramon Jiminez
I have a feeling that my boat
has struck, down there in the depths
against a great thing.
And nothing happens!
Nothing.. Silence.. Waves..
– Nothing happens?
or has everything happened,
and are we standing now, quietly,
in the new life?
Perpetrators and institutions have cheated justice and gotten a free pass from current statutes of limitation (SOLs) which enable more abuse and provide a perverse incentive to cover up their crimes. It’s time we look into the depths and remove “great thing” #1 blocking the truth: State SOLs on sexual abuse.
Awareness has never been higher, loopholes are recognized, effective solutions have been crafted – yet those with the power and obligation to act are stalled. Are a few institutions still blocking progress? Yes, according to Marci Hamilton:
“Powerful lobbyists—including the Catholic bishops, the Latter-day Saints bishops, and Jewish rabbis—invest millions against the victims, and the insurance lobby enjoys collecting premiums while it avoids having to pay out. Legislators have listened to the lobbyists and not the victims in too many states for too long. Predators know SOLs and they gravitate to the states with the worst SOLs. Thus, SOL reform really is a choice: predators or children. Let’s take the SOL out of the child sex abuse picture.” Read her powerful assessment: http://hamilton-griffin.com/dennis-hastert-the-duggars-and-the-light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel/
Are people even aware that the Child Victims Act, supported by many, is under consideration in Albany this week? It deserves an up or down vote, rather than having the few opponents hide behind committees so that their constituents won’t see that they side with abusers and institutional betrayal. Where does your own representative stand?
Internationally, Australia, Scotland, Ireland, France, the UK, Japan, and more have discovered sexual abuse on an enormous scale and have begun to investigate. Nationally, schools in every state have suffered and many are assessing their prevention systems. The most effective change is in state legislatures reforming laws that up to now help abusers and not victims. The rusty hulk of machinery that is bureaucracy takes time to move. Right now, lawmakers have shown a failure of courage. Until they act, each school administration is the first line of defense.
Are they prepared to respond to help victims and report to authorities? The sad history says no. When institutions put reputation above safety, they fail to confront abusers and cover up crimes that victims have painfully brought forward. Too many examples have been revealed – at Yeshiva, Hackley, Woodward, Indian Mountain, Known Grammar, Episcopal Academy, and American School in Japan – of “great thing” #2 obstructing justice: Decades of cover up by schools.
One head of school says of the lesson of the past:
“There were points were heads and boards knew and failed to take decisive action. Thus, the interests of the adults were served at the expense of those whose lives are most important—the students. Conducting a rigorous and intense investigation and then having the courage to do what is in the best interest of kids and the institution should be our North Star.”
Administrators are more aware of the strengths and weaknesses in their reporting as board chairs and principals have reached us about reading the recommendations in the report by alumni from Horace Mann, “Making School Safe,” and meeting with teachers, staff and parents. Send the link to the head of your child’s school: http://makingschoolsafe.com/the-report/findings-recommendations/
Will the head of school where you are see the way to alert authorities? It’s time to demand accountability from independent schools (and colleges) to tell any victim of harm they want to know what happened, they want to help and to show they can speak openly about sexual abuse, past or present, without fear.
Ask your school what they will do today or the promise to victims will again strike a “great thing:” the failure of courage. Healing and justice deserve to be the real great things — in the new life.
There are 3 significant reasons to eliminate the statute of limitations on sexual abuse:
1. The psychological shame that prevents victims of sexual abuse from reporting, sometimes for decades,
2. The perverse incentive in the law that rewards institutions when they discourage, silence and cover-up reports of abuse, and
3. The system being unable to pursue abusers teaching right now – unnamed, uninvestigated but known. The provision for the retroactive window protects students. The CVA works to remove these barriers:
Justice requires we recognize the pain victims struggle with that prevents reporting:
Shame prevents victims of sexual abuse from reporting.
Blaming oneself is a typical response and it too prevents reporting.
Feelings of self-degradation and unworthiness, confusion, loss of self-respect and dignity — all these also prevent reporting.
The relationship with the abuser — like spousal abuse — prevents victims from reporting.
Being privately and secretly sexually abused by an authority figure is not like having your hat stolen in the street.
Many victims may choose to live with their pain hoping to forget the experience in time. From reading accounts of Horace Mann victims from their own hand, I’ve learned that when they finally, after decades, choose to report, it is not because the memories have suddenly erupted like a recovered memory. They report because the memory has never left them. It visits their sleep in nightmares; they remember it every morning when they wake; it haunts them every day; when they know that the unbearable will not be relieved, they have nothing more to lose than to speak out the truth.
Justice requires we remove the perverse incentive the current SOL provides to schools to silence reporting… at the very time it would be most effective:
We now know that many victims did report abuse to the administration from the late 1960’s through the 90’s only to be turned away and ignored. The SOL for schools is only 3 years. When a sophomore reports abuse and the school stalls them, by graduation the school is no longer accountable.
So even those victims with the self-assurance and confidence and tough courage to report were only to be dismissed by the institution and discouraged in their pursuit of justice. No law can strictly prevent institutions from hiding timely reports, but it CAN remove an incentive. Since a cover-up may last decades, the statue of limitations facilitates institutional cover-up.
The current SOL prevents the arm of the law from extending beyond the walls of institutions like Horace Mann that conceal and cover up sexual abuse and discourages victims from reporting enduringly hurtful crimes. Neither the abusers nor their protector and facilitator institutions should be allowed to hide behind a statute that serves harmful, dangerous people and unjust institutions.
Justice requires we address abusers still teaching, hidden in the backlog of cases:
Beyond the removal of the SOL, the retroactive window is essential so that abusers now teaching can be identified. As it is now, the DA or police cannot fully investigate accounts out of statute. As a result, abusers remain unchecked and unknown to the public. Children remain at risk.
The DA is better able to investigate crimes than a school principal, but when the SOL prevents charges, the process ends. In NY, once an abuser’s crimes are 5 years old, he can teach your child without you even knowing — without accountability. Making civil action available would at least uncover risks hiding close by. Victims should not bear the burden alone to speak out. Our schools and institutions must be accountable to report abuse when it occurs. And speak about it openly.
In sum, victim shame, school cover-up, disabled authorities – all three are enlisted by institutions as they game the system to buy silence for reputation over safety. The price is paid by further victims. Urge your legislator to pass the Child Victim’s Act, A2872 / S63.
Examples of “doing the right thing” in schools’ letters to the community
When school administrations are confronted with the difficult news that their students were sexually abused by faculty, how did they react? Most reach out to their communities immediately. Many set an immediate path to learn, take action and heal. Some work with groups behind closed doors, while others deal with each reporting victim separately.
At Carolina Friends School, even though the abusers could not be prosecuted, “…the school could still try to unearth the truth, no matter how painful, said Mike Hanas, the current principal. “As a Friends community, at our best, we ought to be relentlessly truth-seeking.” 
From the very first message it sends out, a school defines how students, parents and the public will react, and most important: if survivors will feel safe enough to overcome fear and shame. Examples from letters illustrate how schools create or discourage healing:
“We are humbled by the strength of our former students who had the courage to share their experiences with us. …we hired two of the nation’s leading experts on child abuse and sexual misconduct to conduct an independent review… Interviews were conducted with a number of former students, parents, former and current staff, and Board members. The information we gathered was shared with the Orange County Sheriff’s Office and District Attorney.”
“At CFS, we teach our children that it is possible to change the world. Those former students and alumni who shared their experiences with us live that value. They have created the opportunity for communal healing and reconciliation. In doing so, they have made our world better by allowing us to both right a past harm and to improve our care of students going forward.” 
Hanas said it is important to be transparent about what happened because a “pernicious” culture of silence can only hurt victims of abuse. 
“As I have tried to make sense of what unfolded, I’m struck not only by the failure to ask more questions after these inappropriate activities first came to light but also by the atmosphere of silence and privacy at the School…” – Rebecca Upton, Head of School, Buckingham Browne & Nichols School, Oct 10, 2008.
What matters? Openness and ownership. People think the children don’t understand. I guarantee you they do. Children smell hypocrisy in the way their school tells the truth – or doesn’t.
The best schools invite a dialogue by making it clear immediately that they…
Ask for students and alumni to reach them with information
Offer support for those harmed and others
Begin an immediate and independent investigation
Show compassion and respect for victims
Assure victims who have been silent they are safe in speaking up
Take care not to re-injure victims along the way
— “You may access confidential counseling and support by contacting a 24-hour confidential hotline. Solebury School’s door and inbox are open. You may contact [Head of School] Tom directly at [direct phone number] or click here to email Tom. Click here to communicate information directly to the school. Information may be submitted anonymously through this webpage. You may also contact… child abuse professionals and attorneys” 
— Whit Sheppard, on Deerfield’s head of school: “Margarita Curtis responded within hours of receiving my e-mail in June 2012. She displayed a clear moral authority and offered unconditional support from the start. At the end of nearly every conversation we had — more than a dozen over the next several months — she would ask me some version of “Are you doing OK? Is there anything I can do for you?” She saluted my courage in coming forward and offered a sincere and heartfelt apology on behalf of the school. Hers was the first acknowledgement I had ever received that the school bore some measure of responsibility for my troubling experience there.” 
— “It is important that the School have a full and accurate understanding of any misconduct that may have occurred, so that we can do our best to support and protect every former, current, and future member of the School community.” — Eric F. Peterson, Head of School, St. George’s School
Carolina Friends, Buckingham Browne & Nichols, Deerfield, Solebury, St. George’s School, Marlborough, Hotchkiss, and others have been able to speak openly about abuse and encourage victims to speak out.
Survivors need to be heard and when administrators see listening as a liability, reconciliation is narrowly defined and turns litigious. Survivors have already been hurt. They shouldn’t be harmed again by being turned away.
A tepid or ambiguous school response is confusing to everyone. It feels odd. It’s not normal communication and enforces silence. Not taking ownership is a deadly message.
— “…there are two schools to tend to: one facing forward with a lifetime of wonderful memories taking shape, and one with students well past college-age seeking support and leadership beyond what a traditional alumni office offers.”
Translation: The alumni are some irrelevant adults who need to be redirected. What of the victims among them? Is this the invitation you would respond to if you were harmed?
— “Defining our choice as between focusing on the “bad past” or the “good present” is a false choice which only serves the interest of those invested in inertia and denial. How about this: the only bad things we know about HM’s present are the ways the institution is choosing not to respond to its past.” (A survivor, on healing)
— Telling parents that abuse “may or may not have happened” despite scores of victims
— Referring to victims reporting abuse as “a group of self‐described alumni ‘survivors’ who report that they were abused by teachers who are no longer at the school.”
Denial is destructive. Choosing not to respond to the past is permanent damage — present and future.
Even after three years, Horace Mann has yet to say the one thing that matters – the one thing that is truly standard in all communications from other schools right now – that they want to know what happened; that if an alum was harmed they want to know and help, without judgment.
And so there are survivors who have not spoken, who have not been welcomed as they truly are, who see others brought back in the fold to HM. HM opens its doors to some, not all. And for those who have yet to speak up, this must hurt. The entire community suffers and it brands the school.
“An independent investigation is so utterly logical, so clearly necessary and apparently so very threatening to the current Board of Trustees that one obvious conclusion that can be drawn is that certain key Board members do not want the truth to be known. Whether they are hoping to hide their own complicity and culpability or that of their predecessors is the only question really still in doubt.” (An alumna)
I have learned some hard lessons over the last three years about independent schools.
1. Your child’s teacher is obligated to report YOU but not an abuser teaching next door, in independent schools. We need to fix mandated reporting in New York State. And the Bronx DA agrees.
2. Private schools in NY State rarely alert authorities when they get reports of abuse by teachers. Abusers love that.
3. The policies schools write are to show parents. All bets are off when a real event happens.
4. Schools aren’t accountable for keeping records. Once a school covers up an incident with an abuser, every next incident is preventable and inexcusable.
5. If your child reported abuse to the principal, you’d expect an immediate call. Not at Horace Mann.
We know more about the sanitation of the restaurant down the street than about the risk our children face in the schools we trust to take care of them every day.
With any abuse event, knowing how and why is essential to prevention. Despite four decades of abuse by faculty, HM refuses to investigate or cooperate to learn the truth. We expect our schools to be accountable.
You can learn more in our report of the investigation by concerned alumni. The systemic conditions we found in our school may likely exist in your child’s school. Read what we found along with recommendations for school administrators.