On Monday, Nov. 16th, 25 child protection organizations met in front of the White House to announce a coalition seeking a National Commission on Child Sex Abuse, along the lines of the groundbreaking Australia Royal Commission on Institutional Abuse. Their mission has been to inquire into and report upon responses by institutions to instances and allegations of child abuse.
American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children (APSAC)
— (Michael L. Haney)
American Humanist Association (Roy Speckhart, Matt Bulger) Bishopaccountability.org(Terry McKiernan, Anne Barrett Doyle)
Catholic Whistleblowers (Rev. Jim Connell, Tom Doyle, etc.)
Child Friendly Faith Program (Janet Heimlich)
Child Justice, Inc. (Eileen King)
Foundation to Abolish Child Sex Abuse (FACSA) (John Salveson)
Foundation for Survivors of Abuse (FSA) (Deondra Brown)
Horace Mann Action Coalition (HMAC) (Peter Brooks)
Justice4PaKids (Maureen Cislo)
KidSafe Foundation (Sally Berenzweig)
Lauren’s Kids (Lauren Book)
MaleSurvivor (Christopher Anderson)
National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (NAACSA)
— (Bill Murray)
National Black Church Initiative (NBCI) (Rev. Anthony Evans)
National Center for Victims of Crime (NCVC)(Jeff Dion)
National Organization of Forensic Social Work (Viola Vaughan Eden)
National Partnership to End Interpersonal Violence Across the Lifespan (NPEIV) — (Sandi Capuano Morrison)
National Survivor Advocates Coalition (NSAC) (Kristine Ward)
Peaceful Hearts Foundation (Matt Sandusky)
Road to Recovery (Robert Hoatson)
SNAP (David Clohessy, Barbara Blaine)
Speaking Truth to Power (STTOP) (Ruth Moore)
Stop the Silence (Pamela Pine)
Survivors and Clergy Leadership Alliance (Peter Isely)
Together We Heal (David Pittman)
Turning Point Women’s Counseling and Advocacy Center
— (Kristen Woolley)
Vertigo Charitable Foundation (Valerie Gibson)
Voice Today (Angela Williams, Marlan Wilbanks)
Horace Mann Action Coalition Nov. 16th, 2015, Washington, D.C.
The American public is learning what the advocates and abuse prevention groups here have known and confronted over years in their work to support survivors: the role of institutions in enabling most sexual abuse.
Behind the vast majority of incidents of sexual abuse are repeated sets of crimes the justice system overlooks in many states and by doing so, perpetuates continued abuse and harm.
It’s time to recognize the pattern we see in repeated abuse rather than react to each new revelation.
“We hope it goes away” isn’t a prevention strategy, it’s an obscene free pass for organizations hiding abuse and worse, a deadly message to unspoken victims everywhere which shouts “we don’t want you to speak up.”
From our research, we see a clear pattern again and again: When an abuser is reported, organizations most often cover it up. The victim is stalled. The abuser isn’t confronted or is moved, allowing further abuse. The abuser continues to operate. How? By running out the clock, using the state’s SOL as a roadmap. The institution takes advantage of that perverse incentive, games the system and claims no accountability for creating the majority of abuse.
I know. In my own school, sexual abuse on an unimaginable scale continued for more than 35 years, despite repeated reports made by victims, students, parents and teachers to the administration. Some victims committed suicide. Most suffer life-long wounds.
Add many further failures to the covering up of reports and the intimidation of those reporting:
· Not alerting authorities
· Not investigating or documenting accounts received so subsequent abuse would be obvious
· Not looking for the likely other victims
· Not counseling those harmed
· Not informing parents of abuse reported of their own children
· Not confronting abusers
· Not alerting schools where abusers moved on to teach
At each step, they hurt victims already wounded, hide abusers, and stall justice – all to put reputation over safety with impunity. Even years later, with a fresh opportunity to help heal, they stonewall and re-injure.
Why do we still allow schools, religious groups and other institutions to betray trust and subvert accountability? Why is the same abuse confronted quickly in one state and invisible next door?
A national commission would have the power to investigate and would recognize what we all have seen. Our colleagues in Australia had the courage to examine historic and nationwide abuse with enough perspective to see it as it really is. They concluded:
“We need to move from an understanding of institutions as merely places where child sexual abuse may occur to places where the institution itself is conducive to crime. And if institutions or organizations are directly or indirectly responsible for criminal behaviour such as child sexual assault, the law should hold them to account.”
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Ariel Kaminer interviewing Amos Kamil at NYU on Nov. 18th. She set the tone for an intimate evening asking about aspects not explored in other discussions: the toll of taking on the story, icons, father figures, confidences, the writing process, and the concentration and scope of what is known so far. Questions and comments followed, from the full house audience which included schoolmates young and old, former teachers, grads from Hilltop and other schools. Notables attending added details to the revealing discussion, including Judge Snyder, teachers and survivors. Where would things be had Amos not written his article? More open discussion events are planned for January and throughout 2016.
I encourage everyone to read this new book “Great is the Truth” by Amos Kamil with Sean Elder. From the dreadful span of decades-long abuse to how leaders entrusted to protect children fail today, the tale provides astounding lessons, hidden for too long, to help every parent, spouse, student, teacher and school administration. It’s a compelling read, not just for grads but for anyone curious about what our institutions do behind the scenes to protect reputation at the expense of safety. It’s the kind of cover up the public rarely hears about in news accounts. The largest school sexual abuse scandal in America, worse then Penn State, shouldn’t ever have to be repeated to recognize the warning signs highlighted here or to confirm how you would expect your child’s school to respond, opposite of what this school’s administration sadly chose. Let’s hope that when the next incidents of sexual abuse are revealed, schools react with compassion and reach out, instead of burying reports as just a PR problem to be made to go away. If that’s the message to victims ashamed to come forward, none of them will. I learned that now is the time to ask my child’s school what they will do, before any event would make that discussion impossible.
The Report by concerned alumni here is a great companion piece to the narrative of this book and a way for a parent to begin a conversation with the principal of their child’s school. http://makingschoolsafe.com/quiz/
HM Alumni are puzzled by recent steps the school has taken that seem peculiar:
— Alumni were not included in the dedication of “Alumni Field,”
— Those abused by Mr. Clark and others were not consulted on the renaming of the former “Clark Field,” and
— An article the following week cited three alumni without the paper consulting them; the paper issued corrections.
Below is the letter to the editor of the HM Record in response from two of those involved, published this past Friday, Nov. 6th, 2015:
We are among the dozens of students who were sexually abused by our trusted teachers at Horace Mann, and one of us was abused by Headmaster R. Inslee Clark, after whom the former “Clark Field” was named.
We were pained and distressed to see our names in print in the October 16th Record, cited as “proponents” of a decision about the renaming of “Main Field,” despite the fact that we were not proponents of that decision and had not been consulted on it. Dr. Kelly has phoned us to apologize and to communicate the reporter’s apology, and The Record’s Editor has also published an apology. We accept these apologies.
Nonetheless, the rededication of the field represents a missed opportunity for our community. It seems strange that those who were abused by Mr. Clark and others were not consulted on the renaming of the former “Clark Field.” And it seems strange that alumni were not included in the dedication of “Alumni Field.”
There is a constructive way to move forward toward healing and eventually to an on-campus memorial. Since the abuse was revealed publicly in 2012, many in the HM community, including the Survivors’ Group, the Alumni Council, and The Record’s former Editor-in-Chief (in a May 2014 opinion piece), have called upon the school’s leadership to provide a public accounting and acknowledgment of what happened, based on the memories of current and former school personnel and based on the school’s own files. The Survivors’ Group has also asked repeatedly to meet with the Trustees for constructive dialogue, but the Trustees have declined to meet face-to-face with us, other than as part of a legal process.
Poly Prep faced a similar situation and managed to address it in a way that was able to bring the beginnings of healing to many of the Survivors of abuse there, the alumni, and the current students and faculty. Through a series of meetings between members of the Survivors and school Administrators and Trustees, including open dialogue about what transpired, and plans for a fitting ceremony which included speeches and dedication of a memorial, both sides worked together to take a much needed step towards healing and unity.
If we can achieve a similar process and outcome, then Horace Mann might be able to bring together the entire community, including members of the Survivors’ Group, to create a fitting memorial that would be healing to our community – both for past memories and for future generations.
We have spoken with Dr. Kelly, and are hopeful that we can organize something along those lines, and step forward, hopefully culminating in a memorial service and dedication in the near future, that can bring together Alumni, current students and faculty, and renew old friendships.
On Oct 16th, the HM Record printed a seriously flawed article about the dedication event at Homecoming, wrongly portraying the support of survivors and by me without having contacting us. The school mailed the edition to all parents.
I was surprised to read an article about the re-dedication. Even more to be quoted and mis-identified. I called around and discovered that none of the others quoted had been interviewed either. What’s more, it turns out the event described didn’t take place. So I wrote the editor of the Record and have since learned the following:
The editor informed the faculty advisor of “significant problems with the recent article,” and that “quotes in the article were falsely attributed.” The advisor agreed this was extremely troubling, that the administration was taking the matter very seriously, promising a full explanation when available and to issue a corrections statement in the next issue. She declined my request to meet in person at HM. The original article and the corrections in the following issue are uploaded below.
Why these three people, from among all alumni? Who chose them? Why was no call made to each of us? How did the story itself come to be? Who commissioned the author? With whom did author speak? Who fact-checked? The student reporter(s) made an error as did others at the school who, knowing the people and issues far better, should have intervened. The reporter(s) should not be faulted if the story was provided to them by others.
The reporter’s reference to me as a survivor appears to have been based on the mistaken assumption that my work with HMAC is motivated by my personal experiences. Like many of my fellow alumni – both survivors and their classmates – I am motivated by a belief that what happened needs to come to light if justice is to be served and future harm avoided. Because the school has declined to take responsible action we are doing so ourselves, with a broad base of support from the Horace Mann community.
The school’s response is additionally troubling as it immediately follows alumni letters to the editor of the Record offering a path for the school leaders to join with alumni to reconcile divisions in the community. An inclusive dedication could have been meaningful progress.
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The school squandered a valuable opportunity to heal the community and join with alumni at Homecoming on the field. From my perspective, the school didn’t plan an inclusive, meaningful ceremony to include the survivors, because the school hasn’t taken necessary precursor steps. They threw it onto a schedule without a lot of care or thought, and then there was either no ceremony or, at best, no ceremony that those who’d have wanted to attend could attend as a practical matter. Well-intended people were there and were left standing around – stood up after they thought they were invited on a date. The schedule showed a time set for a ceremony. For whatever reason, any ceremony was very small. If no event was intended, why run the article in the Record citing the approval of survivors in the first place?
Renaming is one step forward. Doing it alone is forgetting and excludes those harmed, not truly re-dedicating to all. “Alumni Field” is just a sign when what’s still missing is the truth and real engagement. Why wasn’t the school’s event more like the analogous Poly Prep event, which seemed to be more unifying? Because there, the whole community found the strength to overcome fear and pain and work through some hard owning up together to make that solemn ceremony possible.
HM can hold a dedication which heals after first undertaking the prerequisite of any honest accounting. Then meet with survivors and those interested in the planning, invite students and alumni and join together in a dedication with true meaning.
The following letter appears in the October 9th issue of the HM Record, defining a necessary step for the administration to move to heal the community:
To the Editor:
This letter responds to The Record’s September 8 pieces on the HMAC investigation report and the 2014-2015 annual fund, and also to Peter Brooks’s October 2 letter to the Editor. I write from the perspective of a lawyer who for almost twenty years has advised independent schools on issues of institutional concern. I’m also a member of the Class of ’82 who, like so many of my schoolmates, experienced inappropriate conduct by an HM teacher.
Per well-established best practices, independent schools grappling with histories of sex abuse and inadequate responses to such abuse restore institutional equilibrium by pivoting toward transparency and renewed trustworthiness in the eyes of all significant constituencies. For such a pivoting to happen, a necessary step is a school’s candid “letter to the community” that includes reasonable detail about what happened and what specific institutional shortcomings contributed. Most often, the “guts” of the letter is a summary of an independent investigation commissioned by the school itself. Deerfield Academy is a strong example of the many independent schools that have followed this playbook to restore equilibrium, goodwill, and a warm sense of shared, communal values spreading across constituencies and generations.
With alumni funding, the HMAC report was prepared because the HM administration has not yet provided the school community with a written report on the systemic problems that allowed abuse to occur for so long. From the 2012 publication of Amos Kami’s article in TheNew York Times through the present, the school’s positioning on the abuse issue has been a source of frustration and pain for survivors and large numbers of alumni. To survivors and many alumni, HM’s actions feel inconsistent with survivors’ and alumni’s statuses as members of an HM “community” — a word with ancient roots connoting a group that acts collectively to fortify, strengthen, or defend.
Accordingly, in addition to the opportunities identified in Mr. Brooks’s letter, the HMAC report’s publication is a renewed opportunity for our school’s leadership to consider pivoting decisively, through the issuance a “letter to the community” about what happened and what institutional shortcomings contributed. Many including this writer believe that such a factual accounting by the school would be in its institutional interest, and would be a necessary step to show all that, going forward, the school administration stands with rather than apart from survivors and concerned alumni. As the experiences of many other schools have shown, any institutional risk associated with reasonable transparency on the sex-abuse issue is substantially less than the risk of a lack of transparency. A moderately-detailed “letter to the community” from the school would — to borrow Mr. Brooks’s phrase — “only help us and cannot hurt us.”
As school reopens, students wrote in Horace Mann’s weekly paper of the report on decades-long abuse commissioned by alumni. An administrator was quoted as saying it contained “nothing substantially new,” despite the school’s refusal to investigate or discuss any of the lessons learned from its own understanding or files. In the following issue, the paper printed this letter to the editor from alumni in response:
“Dismissing the alumni report as containing nothing new overlooks important contributions and a vital opportunity. First, there is now an actual report in one place with recommendations based on investigation. Second, it includes practices endorsed by administrators to make school safer today. Third, it includes a list of reports made to the school in order to diagnose how to improve early warnings, prescribe practical methods to heal similar events and limit damage. Fourth, school heads and boards are using it to improve their education and prevention systems.
More central, as the alumni of HM have taken a leading role in a national effort to address abuse in schools, an opportunity is open for the administration to join with alumni in helping all schools benefit from the lessons learned. Surely all members of the community share the goal of making school safe, whatever our differences may be.
We should join together to eliminate the gaping loopholes in mandated reporting identified by the Bronx DA. We should help current and future survivors by supporting the Child Victims Act as endorsed by experts. We can recognize the systemic conditions that enabled abuse at HM and make sure they are removed in our school and all schools. As a next step, we should meet and speak openly together to show our community that nothing that has happened in the past should be feared and that however awkward and however painful discussing sexual abuse can be, discussing it can only help us and certainly cannot hurt us.
The report can be found online at MakingSchoolSafe.com
It remains to be seen what proportion of teachers have read the report or are even aware of it. Beyond the value of the narrative history of accounts it contains, the report puts in one place best practices and recommendations for prevention which all teachers should know. It also includes key questions parents can ask to understand the policies and systems in place at their own child’s school and to engage administrators in ongoing conversation. That discussion is far easier now than after any tragic event.
As Horace Mann prepares for its annual Homecoming day and assorted class reunions, how do the survivors of abuse feel about coming “home”? What efforts have been made to welcome them?
Justice shouldn’t depend on who owns the crime scene.
Our schools can’t speak openly about abuse or rape. Victims see the silence of authority and fear making a report. How do we change the moving parts of prevention to limit abuse and confront it when it occurs?
On the surface it sounds simple: see something, say something. But in practice most bystanders don’t say something, administrators don’t tell authorities and less than one in five victims ever reports sexual abuse or assault. Those who do speak must endure an unimaginable gauntlet of further pain and often re-injury without any resolution.
While the recent focus on colleges being accountable for how they address rape has brought public attention, practices have gotten worse. Reporting is badly broken. Need proof? Over a period of four years, half of colleges nationwide logged zero assaults. That’s not possible. Zero “reports” is what they received, meaning many, many victims were silent. Zero reports are no sign of prevention — they are a clear sign no one trusts the systems or the administrations.
( http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/college-sexual-assault-ranking_55ca42c5e4b0f1cbf1e67a6a )
College administrations are squeezed between Title IX requirements, compassion for victims, the rights of those accused and a new climate. How should a victim report, and to whom? Who investigates, what records are kept, or what sanctions are applied? The systems are idiosyncratic, burdensome and discourage reports. One example: In a drug-facilitated rape of a freshman woman on her third day of orientation by a stranger, a college has demanded to see a rape survivor’s entire sexual history. “To ask the victim in discovery to name every sexual partner and romantic interest she has ever had is irrelevant and outrageous and totally inappropriate. It is intended to harass and intimidate the victim.”
( http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/virginia-wesleyan-rape-victim_55c7a759e4b0923c12bd3241 )
The press seems more interested in looking at the issue in colleges while many of the same flaws exist in secondary schools, where the harm is earlier and the victims are less visible. Changing the system once and for all should include both levels and both public and private schools. Only a comprehensive solution will bring real prevention.
Does the task match the expertise?
“A cottage industry is being created” on campuses dedicated to handling tasks that fall outside the expertise of colleges and universities,” Janet Napolitano, president of the University of California and a former prosecutor and secretary of Homeland Security, warned in an article in the Yale Law & Policy Review published online this month. ( http://www.latimes.com/nation/la-na-campus-sexual-assault-20150817-story.html )
The peculiar often in-camera procedures don’t support victims well, or provide fairness, or build trust among the community because of their murkiness. Without trust, no one will speak up.
“It should not require national media coverage for campus sexual assault to be taken seriously, but we are finding ourselves well past that tragic point. It should be obvious by now that this common rape culture—addressing symptoms rather than causes, dismissing victims, and stifling conversations—is present and prevalent in the schools that don’t make headlines as well as the ones that do.” ( http://jezebel.com/when-i-tried-to-talk-to-my-prep-school-about-rape-cultu-1725635150 )
Why are the very people experienced at investigating often not informed (like the DA and police), while the head of school decides what to do, entangled in direct conflicts of interest over concerns for reputation, friends and donors? Even the state social services designed to provide help in cases of guardian abuse cannot deal with abuse by teachers or abusers who are not parents (in NY State).
The functions a good reporting system must perform lead us to identify who should best provide them:
1) Caring for victims with compassion, building trust, safety and justice.
2) Documenting, fact finding, investigating, managing confidentiality, keeping records.
3) Dealing with the accused, providing fairness, weighing sanctions and actions.
4) Communicating with the community with openness and transparency, balancing privacy issues.
Right now, victims of sexual assault turn to the nearby hierarchy: the heads of their colleges and high schools. Their hope for justice and fair treatment is soured in a patchwork of systems — if procedures exist at all. School heads aren’t objective third parties. Even if well-intended, many principals lack experience in investigation and stumble on isolating witnesses, questioning or prior knowledge of the accused. Often they prefer not to keep records to limit liability.
( http://www.click2houston.com/news/prestigious-school-admits-covering-up-teachers-sexual-abuse-of-students/34454562 )
Functions # 2 and 3 above are what the DA is trained to do. And yet school heads don’t call them. As much as it makes sense to seek other victims and ask the community for information, the prospect of bad press and/or liability undermines school heads doing just that instead relying on much smaller discrete inquiries. The lack of search, counseling and openness by the institution severely limits function #1. The usual result is a carefully crafted and contained letter that raises more questions than it answers, defeating function #4.
The system with the best chance to work combines the experience and sensitivities of outside agencies — rather than principals and floor monitors: joint and cooperative action between the DA (to investigate), state social services (providing victim care), and the institution (speaking openly). Once a report is made, it should be immediately clear if it’s the first, fifth or tenth account of an abuser. When organizations are accountable for records to authorities, it ends the incentive to hide or cover up sexual abuse which has created more victims. More reporting wouldn’t mean more assaults, it means less shame and secrecy.
Institutions which avoid federal funds shouldn’t be exempt from accountability for covering crimes.
“Since child abuse thrives in secrecy, there is a compelling interest in producing these files as it increases transparency on the potential mishandling of sex abuse claims. A society interested in protecting children from criminal assaults would not reasonably leave to the discretion of a children’s social club the disclosure of information regarding criminal assaults on children.” — Judge in Florida. Institutions obliged to protect children, especially a school, must be accountable and end the silence and secrecy.
( http://www.browardpalmbeach.com/news/boy-scouts-request-to-keep-sexual-abuse-files-confidential-denied-by-florida-judge-7195643 )
Effective reporting is even worse in secondary schools, especially private schools:
— Victims are minors and abusers are adult teachers and administrators.
— Consent is not the issue, early reporting is.
— Schools heads have an inherent conflict of interest, less experience and more reason to cover up.
— Mandated reporting laws and state services have well-known loopholes that remain unfixed.
— Social services are geared to handle guardian abuse – by parents, not others.
— Bystanders and victims are reluctant to speak with police, or the DA.
— Bystanders and teachers are confused on liability despite protections.
— Private secondary schools are worse than public schools.
Abuse in public schools is dealt with much more promptly and effectively than in private schools. One reason is the presence of an office apart from the educators dedicated to investigating accounts of sexual abuse. Why isn’t that same equal protection provided to all?
A model used in NY City Public schools
Abuse by teachers and staff is confronted sooner in the public schools in New York City, thanks mainly to the unit run by Richard Condon. The Special Commissioner of Investigation for the New York City School District is a unit of DOI that operates independently of the Department of Education. The office investigates alleged acts of corruption and other criminal activity, conflicts of interest, unethical conduct and misconduct by anyone within the New York City School District or doing business with the Department of Education. The office also serves as the Inspector General for the Teachers’ Retirement System of the City of New York and the New York City Board of Education Retirement System.
Why shouldn’t the same independent investigative capability protect private schools as well, in conjunction with local DAs?
( You can watch and hear Richard Condon in this video from the Abuse Symposium at NYU. Scroll to his beginning at about 1:09 to 1:25 – https://vimeo.com/110393616 )
Fairness and justice for victims of sexual assault and abuse shouldn’t depend on the location of the building in which it happens. Effective prevention shouldn’t be limited to one small corner for students. Support legislative reform with the Child Victims Act in Albany. Urge your representative to plug the massive loopholes in mandated reporting laws as well.
Until reforms are made, victims are much better served by reporting *first* to authorities – the local DA or police. They are better equipped to record and support survivors and the account won’t be buried. Let the current process at the school in question follow as it proceeds. Those who come forward are protected.
I call on Senators Kristen Gillibrand (NY), Clare McCaskill (MO), Pat Toomey (PA) and others working on the college side of abuse legislation in Washington. Join with Judge Leslie Crocker Snyder, Marci Hamilton and victims advocates to connect our best capacities and assemble a universal reporting system. Bring coordinated support to address institutional accountability once and for all. Install one system where abuse now occurs — at college or high school, public or private.
Encourage victims to report by making it easier, more responsive and never buried. Use the principles, not the principals.
For September: Take the time to reach out to help one survivor, one school, one community. Without authentic dialogue and a fresh perspective, nothing will change.
A teacher reported back to me: “…we had an incident <in a nearby school> this summer. I emailed your report to a friend on the BOE and the high school principal. I’m happy to say they took it very seriously and the board member sent it to other board members. So your work is ending up in places you don’t even know about it.It is much more widely disseminated than you even know.”
Board chairs and school heads are using our report with their staff this summer and fall after speaking with alums from HM and other schools. We have heard from alumni about discussions with the New England Association of Independent Schools (NEAIS), the National Association of Independent Schools (NAIS), and about seminars teachers have conducted based on the report.
— Send the link to your own child’s head of school. Ask about how its procedure incorporates the best practices. Ask now, before any event makes conversation far more difficult.
— Urge current teachers to read the alumni-sponsored Report. Start and continue a conversation this September.